Paula Shaw Counseling
Sunday, February 26, 2012
Monday, March 21, 2011
Free Yourself By Healing Childhood Pain and Patterns
Conscious Healing and Repatterning Therapy (CHART) is an energy-based system that incorporates traditional therapeutic models as well as components of the most prominent Energy Psychology methods. It's a therapy for a new millennium, a synthesis of many systems with the unique aspect of focusing the energy treatment on the specific Part of the Personality that holds a given emotional issue. The CHART system utilizes Intention, Diagnostic Muscle Testing, Keywords, Visualization, and Chakra and Meridian contact to energetically clear emotional issues being held by the Inner Child, the Inner Adolescent, and the Adult Self. These critical components of the psyche each carry their own energetic patterns that must be individually treated and healed.
CHART is an outgrowth of many years of my personal and professional experience. I began as a teacher of children, and I guess my heart has always been with them.
While developing CHART, I became acutely aware of a universal grief that we all carry inside, the unhealed grief whose origin is in childhood trauma. This grief is still felt and held onto by our Inner Children and Inner Adolescents who carry the energetic patterns of our past pain and trauma. The CHART process frees them from having to sit and wait in the dark, painful silence. It gives them the opportunity to speak up, express their pain and get the attention they have needed for years. Once that happens, in my experience, both the Child and the Adolescent are able and willing to let go of the pain and fear, heal, and move on. Once they've been heard and freed, they happily let go and open the way for the Adult to heal and grow.
If we as Adults are to function optimally, we have to first clear the "damaged under-growth" existing in the psyches of both the Inner Child and the Inner Adolescent. This outgrowth of the pain and trauma of the early years blocks energy in the present and prevents us from living successfully. We become stuck, dysfunctional, vulnerable to mental disorders, addictive self-defeating behaviors, and unhealthy relationships. However, if we clear this negative patterning from the past, we open up a space in which we can create the future we really desire.
The CHART approach is based on the belief that severe unresolved trauma and attachment conflicts interrupt the normal human developmental process of integration of the personality. The result is fragmentation of the personality manifested as personality disorders and other unproductive beliefs and behavior patterns. The goal of CHART work is integration of the personality and healing of the psyche, brought about by clearing and eliminating unproductive beliefs and behavior patterns where they began and still reside, within the Inner Child. In most cases, this is where the initial trauma and the resulting Attachment Conflicts were first experienced. However, CHART also addresses emotional issues held by the, Inner Adolescent and the Inner Adult whose psychological makeup was built on the damaged foundation of the Child's psyche.
In my opinion, Energy Psychology Systems that only clear issues on the Adult level have limited effectiveness because they may not be impacting the core of the pain and shame held by the Child and/or the Adolescent. Consequently, the problematic beliefs and behaviors may persist or recur. The client continues to think, "I'm bad," "Men are bad," "I only have value when I'm pleasing someone," etc., and behaviors like the inability to commit or be intimate, persist as well. Even if the Adult self is anxious to clear negative energy patterns in order to create a more effective life, the Child and Adolescent parts of the psyche may be immobilized in dysfunctional behavior, old pain and trauma. Until those hurts are healed, the Adult cannot go forward in a productive pain-free manner. The Child and the Adolescent will create the physical or emotional upheaval necessary to draw attention to what they need. A kind of psychic "tantrum" can even occur, manifesting itself in physical pain, illness, or psychological disorders.
Our vulnerable Children experience most of the initial trauma that occurs in a given life. Rarely do they get the opportunity to process and release the impact of the trauma, so it gets locked into their energetic circuitry. A matrix of unproductive beliefs and behaviors forms around it, and after a time it is almost impossible to separate the child's personality from the traumas that initially formed it.
Sadly, it's upon this damaged foundation that the psyche of the Adolescent is built. That psyche then becomes further damaged by the unresolved traumas experienced in Adolescence. This is the legacy that will then be passed on to the Adult. Is it any wonder that by the time we are adults we are fearful, neurotic, frustrated, anxiety-ridden, isolated beings, with no sense of wonder or awe and little ability to live creatively? Way too many of us are walking around numb, afraid, and emotionally dead. It doesn't have to be this way.
We can't build a strong house on a faulty foundation. We have to go back and begin the healing where the wounds were incurred. Caroline Myss describes this beautifully in her book Anatomy of the Spirit.
"The 'wounded child' in each of us contains the damaged or stunted emotional patterns of our youth, patterns of painful memories, of negative attitudes and of dysfunctional self-images. Unknowingly, we may continue to operate within these patterns as adults, albeit in a new form. Fear of abandonment, for example, becomes jealousy. Sexual abuse becomes dysfunctional sexuality, often causing a repetition of the same violations with our own children. A child's negative self-image can later become the source of dysfunctions such as anorexia, obesity, alcoholism, and other addictions as well as obsessive fear of failure. These patterns can damage our emotional relationships, our personal and professional lives, and our health. Loving oneself begins with confronting this archetypal force within the psyche and unseating the wounded child's authority over us. If unhealed, wounds keep us living in the past."
With these ideas as my guiding thoughts, I began to work with clearing the issues of the Inner Child, Adolescent and Adult with all my clients. Low and behold, as we began clearing the traumas of all three of these aspects of the psyche, the back pain in one client disappeared completely, as did the life-long depression issues of another. These successes were soon followed by a host of other physical and emotional issues getting cleared and staying cleared.
My belief is that when we heal the pain of the Inner Child and the Inner Adolescent as well as that of the Adult, we get a deep clearing that lasts because we have eliminated the issue on the level where the pain was first experienced and on the levels that were later impacted.
The goal of this system is to help you CHART a different course -- a course back to happiness, joy and freedom.
Upcoming Workshops & Events
"Chakras, The Magnificent Seven"
Whirl through the chakras. Meet each one and deepen your understanding of its specific characteristics, related health issues, psycho/emotional issues, functions and areas of impact on body, mind and spirit. Learn how to clear pain and trauma from the chakras using a simple process developed by Paula Shaw for her new book, Chakras, The Magnificent Seven. This method effectively clears issues at their point of origin.
Paula will give participants the experience of using a variety of techniques for balancing and energizing the chakras to enhance mental/emotional health and well-being. These easily learned techniques may be competently utilized by the end of the class.
She will show you how you can incorporate this knowledge into your spa and healing treatments to create widely sought after, powerful experiences that will enhance the well-being and overall health of your clients.
Date: To be announced
Advances in
On-The -Body Frequency Imprinting
Discover a revolutionary way to bring the body and mind into energetic alignment to support the manifestation of desired change. Inspired by the work of Japanese scientist Dr. Masaru Emoto (Messages in Water), Paula will teach you how to use this easily implemented process to change your life. This is also a highly effective tool for achieving optimal client outcomes. Emoto demonstrated that water is imprinted by the energetic frequency of words that it comes in contact with. Our bodies are 70% to 90% water. See how easily you can influence all the water in your body to be in congruence with your dreams and desired goals.
Date: To be announced
The Feminine Face of God
Paula's program will include work with her book "Chakras, The Magnificent Seven." Paula emphasizes tapping into the Divine Feminine energy in all of her work. She will lead participants in various exercises to clear their own energy and to connect with that Feminine Face of God. In addition, there will be presentations by Joy Metcalfe, author of "Divine Mother Earth Healing Energy," Sharon McErlane, author of "A Call To Power, The Grandmothers Speak," Katherine Torres, creator of "The Faces of Womanspirit, A Celtic Oracle of Avalon," and Tina Carey author of "Hearing God's Call Through The Bible Mothers."